Disgusted - now it's time for a change

Some people need to get disgusted, mad, enraged or scared before they'll change stubborn habits.

Have you hit bottom? Do you need to?
We put up with lots of bad behavior and bad decisions because we aren’t mad enough to do anything about it. Get mad enough now about your current situation so that you vow to change it and never go back.
Your financial future depends on you making such commitments.

I hit financial bottom once, and it was unnecessary in many respects. For me, I felt like I needed to go all the way through to financial disaster before I would get mad enough to get back on top and head toward financial freedom.

And, that's exactly what I did. With all the debt piled on my back, I was one motivated man with a mission of financial survival and climbing back out of the hole that I had allowed myself to fall into.

I’ll never to go through it again, because I know through sad experience that the frugal mindset works well for me and other "devil may care" approaches to money management are for other fools and their followers.
My problem was that I didn’t know when to cut and run. I should have seen it much earlier – way earlier. You need to be able to recognize trouble when it approaches and then know how to avoid it. Avoiding trouble is the best way to stay out of it.

Like Elvis Costello sings, "I used to be disgusted, now I try to be amused."
Well, I didn't find it a bit amusing then, and I don't find it amusing now. It certainly was an education, but it wasn't the least bit amusing.

To keep myself from getting into financial trouble again, I've set my trigger points quite low. In other words, I'm much more sensitive to trouble approaching. I don't need to wait until I'm mad enough to do something to protect my best interests - I head it off, nip it in the bud, and tell all those potential troubles to "talk to the hand."

Been there, done that, and I ain't doing it again.
Get mad, get disgusted, get riled up real good. Whatever it takes to shake yourself up and get you sufficiently motivated to put an end to what's killing you financially. Your future depends on it.

 

Stop Being Disgusted With Yourself 

Stop Self Hate Immediately

Self Hate, or just being disgusted with yourself, takes away your energy, and dramatically reduces your enjoyment as well as productivity in your life. When you start feeling that you hate yourself and that you deserve bad things, then in all definition, you become your worst enemy!

Self Hate may have started because of being conditioned in the past: perhaps you were given negative ideas from others about yourself. Maybe other people have treated you like just an object to be used and thrown around. Or perhaps your self hate actually comes from someone else’s voice and is not your own sense of what you’re self is at all. Over the years of being conditioned you may have started to have an obscured vision of how you really see yourself.

Self Hate and Perfectionism

It might be that you are a perfectionist. A person who is a perfectionist usually sees reality in black and white without any shades of gray. Therefore, whenever you do something that’s not perfect you feel absolutely disgusted with yourself.
You may have also been conditioned to feel guilty about all different kinds of things. Which makes you over ruminate about the mistakes we’ve made in the past.
Maybe you feel other people are better that you or it seems you’re always saying or doing something wrong.

Start Getting a More Realistic View of Who You Are

Too much self hate is still too much self focus and self regard. When you are able to feel more relaxed and better about yourself, then you won’t have to think about yourself so much which will allow you to focus on other things that are going on in your life.
When you start to give yourself more room and start showing some more decency to yourself then you will be able to live your life to the fullest extent!